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Turning off the lights could turn her on.
Correct Answer: True
Ah, the old lights on/lights off debate. Many guys want the lights on during sex -- to be able to see what they're doing, so to speak. But insisting could be a mistake.
There's some evidence that women may benefit from having the lights off -- it may help them shut off distractions, reduce stress, and focus more fully on the experience. That could be worth the trade-off.
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Most women say that they've faked an orgasm.
True
One survey showed that 70% of women said that they had faked one. That’s a lot. What's the most common reason? They worry that they'll hurt a guy's feelings if they don't play along.
Many men -- often well-meaning ones -- put way too much pressure on their partners to orgasm. That's a turn-off.
Try to relax. If your partner feels more comfortable with you, she won't need to fake it. The less she fakes it, the better you'll understand what really turns her on.
Which can help get your partner in the mood?
Most guys have got it through their heads that foreplay is important, but they don't understand that it's more than "that stuff you do 5 minutes before intercourse."
Think of foreplay as something that goes on for hours -- maybe even days -- before you actually have sex. It can include all sorts of intimacies that will help your partner relax and feel connected to you. That doesn't just mean sexy massages -- taking over her dreary chores could actually be an aphrodisiac. And for some people a little bit of jealousy -- a LITTLE bit -- can be a turn-on.
Women don't like porn.
Correct Answer: False
OK, yes, some women really don't like porn. But guys often make the mistake of making generalizations about What Women Like. One Australian survey found that about one in three women access porn on the Internet -- that's quite a few.
Of course, when it comes to your bedroom, all that matters is what your partner likes. If you want to try exploring erotica together, just ask her. See what happens.
How many women rarely or never orgasm from intercourse alone?
Correct Answer: 30% or more
It's pretty simple: For most women to orgasm, they need stimulation of the clitoris. And for a sizeable number of women, intercourse just doesn't do that job very well. Part of it is anatomy. Studies show that the closer a woman's clitoris is to her vagina, the easier it is to orgasm during sex.
If your partner doesn't orgasm during sex, it's not necessarily something you're doing wrong. She just needs other stimulation as well.
Having a TV in your bedroom can cut your sex life in half.
True
Like watching TV in bed? Then get used to having less sex. One Italian study found that couples with a TV in the bedroom had half as much sex as couples who didn't. Set up your bedroom for sleep and sex. Leave all other distractions outside the door.
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If your partner uses a vibrator to masturbate, it's a sign something is wrong.
False
Guys can get sensitive about their partners using vibrators and other sex toys on their own. Shouldn't I be enough? they worry.
Don't be silly. Your partner using sex toys -- and being in touch with her sexuality -- is good for your sex life, not bad. Instead of feeling challenged, ask if you can incorporate toys into sex together. Nowadays, there are loads of toys designed for and marketed to couples. Trying some could be fun.
Just hugging can improve your sex life.
True
Oxytocin is called the cuddle hormone. Studies show that hugging a woman for just 20 seconds triggers an oxytocin release -- making her feel good and strengthening her bond with you.
Why mention this? Because some guys still imagine that sexual intimacy is somehow distinct from other physical intimacy. It isn't -- even on a biological level. You can't go from sitting on opposite ends of the couch every evening and then expect passionate sex to erupt. Get in the habit of hugging, kissing, and cuddling daily -- your sex life is bound to improve.
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On average, most couples climax at the same time twice a month.
False
Actually, for most couples, climaxing together is pretty rare. But that doesn't stop a lot of guys from trying and -- in all likelihood -- failing. The expert advice is not to worry so much about coordinating your orgasms with clockwork precision. Instead, taking turns -- you focus on her first and then vice versa -- is likely to be more satisfying for both of you.
Keeping things spontaneous will lead to a more fulfilling sex life.
Correct Answer: False
Unexpected, spontaneous sex can be fantastic, no question. But it's not something to center your sex life around -- it's like standing in your yard waiting for a rainstorm when you want a glass of water. Don't wait for sex to happen. Take the initiative. Plan a weekly sex date with your partner. Far from being unsexy, you may find that planning a time for sex will help build desire and anticipation for both of you.
Your Score: 67% You correctly answered 8 out of 12 questions.
Not bad -- but you could polish your bedroom technique.
Turning off the lights could turn her on.
Correct Answer: True
Ah, the old lights on/lights off debate. Many guys want the lights on during sex -- to be able to see what they're doing, so to speak. But insisting could be a mistake.
There's some evidence that women may benefit from having the lights off -- it may help them shut off distractions, reduce stress, and focus more fully on the experience. That could be worth the trade-off.
Previous
Most women say that they've faked an orgasm.
True
One survey showed that 70% of women said that they had faked one. That’s a lot. What's the most common reason? They worry that they'll hurt a guy's feelings if they don't play along.
Many men -- often well-meaning ones -- put way too much pressure on their partners to orgasm. That's a turn-off.
Try to relax. If your partner feels more comfortable with you, she won't need to fake it. The less she fakes it, the better you'll understand what really turns her on.
Which can help get your partner in the mood?
Most guys have got it through their heads that foreplay is important, but they don't understand that it's more than "that stuff you do 5 minutes before intercourse."
Think of foreplay as something that goes on for hours -- maybe even days -- before you actually have sex. It can include all sorts of intimacies that will help your partner relax and feel connected to you. That doesn't just mean sexy massages -- taking over her dreary chores could actually be an aphrodisiac. And for some people a little bit of jealousy -- a LITTLE bit -- can be a turn-on.
Women don't like porn.
Correct Answer: False
OK, yes, some women really don't like porn. But guys often make the mistake of making generalizations about What Women Like. One Australian survey found that about one in three women access porn on the Internet -- that's quite a few.
Of course, when it comes to your bedroom, all that matters is what your partner likes. If you want to try exploring erotica together, just ask her. See what happens.
How many women rarely or never orgasm from intercourse alone?
Correct Answer: 30% or more
It's pretty simple: For most women to orgasm, they need stimulation of the clitoris. And for a sizeable number of women, intercourse just doesn't do that job very well. Part of it is anatomy. Studies show that the closer a woman's clitoris is to her vagina, the easier it is to orgasm during sex.
If your partner doesn't orgasm during sex, it's not necessarily something you're doing wrong. She just needs other stimulation as well.
Having a TV in your bedroom can cut your sex life in half.
True
Like watching TV in bed? Then get used to having less sex. One Italian study found that couples with a TV in the bedroom had half as much sex as couples who didn't. Set up your bedroom for sleep and sex. Leave all other distractions outside the door.
Previous
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If your partner uses a vibrator to masturbate, it's a sign something is wrong.
False
Guys can get sensitive about their partners using vibrators and other sex toys on their own. Shouldn't I be enough? they worry.
Don't be silly. Your partner using sex toys -- and being in touch with her sexuality -- is good for your sex life, not bad. Instead of feeling challenged, ask if you can incorporate toys into sex together. Nowadays, there are loads of toys designed for and marketed to couples. Trying some could be fun.
Just hugging can improve your sex life.
True
Oxytocin is called the cuddle hormone. Studies show that hugging a woman for just 20 seconds triggers an oxytocin release -- making her feel good and strengthening her bond with you.
Why mention this? Because some guys still imagine that sexual intimacy is somehow distinct from other physical intimacy. It isn't -- even on a biological level. You can't go from sitting on opposite ends of the couch every evening and then expect passionate sex to erupt. Get in the habit of hugging, kissing, and cuddling daily -- your sex life is bound to improve.
Previous
On average, most couples climax at the same time twice a month.
False
Actually, for most couples, climaxing together is pretty rare. But that doesn't stop a lot of guys from trying and -- in all likelihood -- failing. The expert advice is not to worry so much about coordinating your orgasms with clockwork precision. Instead, taking turns -- you focus on her first and then vice versa -- is likely to be more satisfying for both of you.
Keeping things spontaneous will lead to a more fulfilling sex life.
Correct Answer: False
Unexpected, spontaneous sex can be fantastic, no question. But it's not something to center your sex life around -- it's like standing in your yard waiting for a rainstorm when you want a glass of water. Don't wait for sex to happen. Take the initiative. Plan a weekly sex date with your partner. Far from being unsexy, you may find that planning a time for sex will help build desire and anticipation for both of you.
Your Score: 67% You correctly answered 8 out of 12 questions.
Not bad -- but you could polish your bedroom technique.
